Visionary mom

Mom, its your birthday
We celebrate you for being you,
Our extraordinary mother.
You have made such a difference,
created so much good in our lives!
We celebrate your smart mothering,
your clever, creative methods
of gently molding your beloved children
into your vision of us:
strong, capable adults,
an unselfish people of good character.
We celebrate your boundless
physical and emotional energy…
loving us, leading us, supporting us,
lifting us when we fall.
On this very special day of your birthday, Mom,
We celebrate the best thing about our lives…
having you as our mother.
May the good lord God bless this day and the rest of your days
Happy birthday Mom!!!!
We all love you

Akeen ‘Deen Saheed

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Rich girl poor boy…

There’s this poor boy, he loved a rich girl. One day the boy proposed to her and the girl said, “Hey! Listen, your monthly salary is my daily hand expenses. How can I be involved with you? How could you have thought of that? I can never ever be in love with you. So, forget about me and get engaged to someone else at your level”.

But somehow the boy could not forget her so easily. Sometime 10 years later, they stumbled into each other in a shopping mall. The lady said, “Hey! You! How are you? Now I’m married and do you know how much my husband’s salary is? $1,700 per month! Can you believe that? And he is also very smart.” The guy’s eyes got wet with tears on hearing those words. A few seconds later, her husband came but before the lady could say a word, her husband seeing the guy, said, “Sir you’re here? Meet my wife.”

Then he said to his wife, “This is my boss, I’m also one of those working on his $100 million project. And do you know a fact my dear? My boss loved a lady but he couldn’t win her heart. That’s why he has remained unmarried. How lucky would that lady have been if she had married him. These days, who will love someone that much he said to his wife. The lady looked in total shock but couldn’t utter a word…

Life is so very short that it’s just like a mirror. You can only see as much as it reflects. So don’t be too arrogant and proud of yourself by looking down on people, because situations change with God anytime!
Don’t ever underestimate anyone, because everyone has potentials!.We Need to learn!

Plucking Eyebrows is HARAM !

Dear Sister, have you really thought about it?
What does Islam REALLY say about shaping the eyebrows?

‘Plucking of women’s eyebrows is not permissible.

The Messenger of Allah (Peace and blessings be upon him) cursed the one who does it. It is Haram and is not permitted.’

The Evidence

Abdullah Ibn Mas’ud said: I heard the Messenger of Allah (Peace and blessings be upon him) say:

Allah has CURSED* the woman who does tattoos and the one who has them done, the woman who plucks eyebrows and the one who has it done, and the one who files her teeth for the purpose of beauty, altering the creation of Allah.

[Bukhari & Muslim]

*Cursed means ‘cast out from the Mercy of Allah

“And when Our Verses are recited to such a one, he turns away in pride, as if he heard them not – as if there were deafness in his ear. So announce to him a painful torment.” [Noble Quran 31:7

​What is the Position of Zuhr When Jumu’ah and ‘Eid Fall on Same Day? #eidonafriday

[Reviewed and Edited]
All praise is due to Allaah, Lord of all the worlds. Peace and blessings of Allaah be upon the Messenger of mercy, Muhammad son of ‘Abdullaah, as well as his family and companions and all those who follow their path till the Day of Resurrection.

It is a familiar trend these days that whenever any of the Islamic festivals and seasonal acts of worship is around the corner, we see Muslims, particularly the youth – may Allaah swell their ranks – seeking to know the correct exact manner such act of worship should be performed according to the Sunnah. This phenomenon is, indeed, a very positive one for it is as an actualization of our scholars’ ceaseless supplication that may Allaah bring the Muslims back to their religion in the most beautiful way. 

A case in this regard is the question on the position of Zuhr prayer when Jumu’ah and ‘Eid fall on the same day. This recurs every few years (it is expected this year) and the controversy regarding whether Zuhr must be observed or not by those who have already observed Eid prayer recurs with it. This short essay attempts to discuss the opinions of the scholars – the early and the contemporary ones – on this issue and their proofs; and points out the most preponderant opinion in the light of the textual and logical proofs. 

Before we do that, let us firstly highlight the points upon which the scholars agree on this topic:

• Whoever performed Eid prayer, and then performed the Jumu’ah prayer does not have to perform Zuhr again.

• Attending Jumu’ah prayer is compulsory upon an eligible Muslim who did not attend ‘Eid prayer.

• Whoever attended neither ‘Eid nor Jumu’ah prayer must observe the Zuhr prayer. 

Point of Contention

Must a Muslim upon whom Jumu’ah is obligatory (i.e. a healthy, adult, male resident) who has already attended ‘Eid prayer but did not attend Jumu’ah prayer pray Salatudh-Dhuhr?

As a first step towards better understanding of this issue, let us look at the authentic narrations recorded from the Prophet ﷺ  and his companions on it, the interpretation of some of which gave birth to the controversy in the first place. 

1. Ibn Majah recorded, with a sound chain of transmission, in his Sunan on the authority of Ibn ‘Abbas that Allaah’s Messenger ﷺ  said, “Two Eids (celebrations) come together in this day of yours. So, whoever wishes can made do with Eid only and that will be sufficient for him and he is no longer obliged to attend the Jumu’ah. But Allaah willing, we are going to observe the Jumu’ah.” 

2. An-Nasaa’ee recorded on the authority of Wahb ibn Kaysaan: “Two Eids (one of them is Jumu’ah) fell on the same day during the reign of Ibn Az-Zubayr, and he delayed his coming out until the latter part of the morning. He then came out and gave a long sermon. He then came down (from the pulpit) and led the people in Eid prayer. He did not observe Jumu’ah prayer that day. When Ibn ‘Abbas was informed of that he said, ‘He has acted according to the Sunnah.’

3. Abu Dawud recorded on the authority of ‘Ata who said: “Eidul-Fitr fell on a Friday during the reign of Ibn Az-Zubayr, and he said, ‘Two celebrations fall on the same day.’ So, he combined both and observed them in two Rak’ahs late in the morning. He observed no other prayer after that until he prayed ‘Asr.”

4. Abu Dawud also recorded on the authority of ‘Ata who said: “Ibn Az-Zubayr led them in prayer on an Eid day that fell on a Friday in the forenoon. We then went for Jumu’ah but he did not come out to us (to give khutbah and lead Jumu’ah prayer). So, we prayed alone. Ibn ‘Abbas was then in Ta’if, and when he came back we informed him of that and he said, ‘He has acted according to the Sunnah.’

5. Ibn Khuzaymah recorded on the authority of An-Nu’maan ibn Basheer that the Prophet ﷺ would recite in the two ‘Eids ‘Sabbih-isma rabbikal A’la’ and ‘Hal ataaka hadeethul-ghaashiyah’; and if one of the Eids fell on a Friday, he would recite both Surahs in both prayers.”

6. Ahmad, Abu Daawood, An-Nasaa’ee, Ibn Maajah and Ad-Daarimee recorded on the authority of Zayd ibn Arqam that Mu’awiyah ibn Abi Sufyaan asked him if he had witnessed an Eid that fell on a Friday during the time of Allaah’s Messenger ﷺ  to which he answered in the affirmative. He then asked him, “What did the Prophet ﷺ  do?” He answered, “He performed the ‘Eid prayer and then permitted people to be absent from Jumu’ah saying, ‘Whoever wishes to observe it can do so.'”

7. Ibn Maajah and At-Tabaraanee (in Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabeer) recorded on the authority of Ibn ‘Umar that two Eids Al-Jumu’ah and Eidul-Fitr fell on the same day during the lifetime of Allaah’s Messenger ﷺ  and he led the people in Eid prayer and then faced them and said: “O people! You have indeed attained blessing and reward. We are going to observe the Jumu’ah prayer. Whoever wishes to attend it with us can do so and whoever wishes to go back to his family is free to do so.”

8. Al-Bukhaaree and Imam Maalik recorded on the authority of Abu ‘Ubayd who said: “I attended a ‘Eid with ‘Uthmaan ibn ‘Affaan (may Allaah be pleased with him), and that was on a Friday. He led the people in prayer and then gave a sermon in which he said, ‘O you people! You are blessed to have two Eids on this day of yours. Therefore, whoever wishes to wait for Jumu’ah from among the dwellers of Al-‘Awaali (the outskirts of Al-Madeenah) can do so, and whoever wishes to go back home, then I have permitted him to do so.”

9. ‘Abdur-Razzaq in his Musannaf (and Ibn Abi Shaybah, with similar wordings) recorded on the authority of ‘Alee ibn Abi Taalib (may Allaah be pleased with him) that he said, when a ‘Eid fell on a Friday during his reign, “He who wishes to witness Jumu’ah with us can do so and he who wishes to stay back at home can do so.”

Based on their interpretations of the above reports, opinions of the scholars on whether or not Dhur is waived for someone who has already attended the Eid prayer that fell on a Jumu’ah, can be narrowed down into three: 

The First Opinion

Absenting from Jumu’ah is permissible for whoever has attended ‘Eid prayer and he is also free not to observe the Zuhr prayer.

Points of evidence of the holders of this opinion from the above narrations are:

• In ‘Ataa’s narration reported by Abu Daawood, Ibn Az-Zubayr did not come out to them at the time of Jumu’ah; and Ibn ‘Abbaas, when he was informed of that, approved it saying it was of the Sunnah.

• In the same narration by ‘Ataa, Ibn Az-Zubayr did not observe any other prayer until he prayed ‘Asr. This apparently shows that he made do with the two Rak’ahs he performed late in the morning.

• The clause in Ibn Maajah’s report: “that is sufficient for him and he is no longer obliged to attend the Jumu’ah.” They argue that if Salaatul-Jumu’ah, which is the original obligatory act of worship of Yawmul-Jumu’ah could be waived as a result of attending ‘Eid prayer which was regarded as sufficient, then there is no longer any need for Zuhr prayer, which is the substitute for Jumu’ah prayer. This is the opinion supported by Imaam Ash-Shawkaanee in his famous work, ‘Naylul-Awtaar vol. 6, p. 423.

To be able to see the arguments of the holders of this opinion from proper perspective, a pertinent question needs to be asked: What is the relationship between Jumu’ah prayer and Zuhr prayer? There are three viewpoints:

• Both prayers are originally prescribed; if they fall on a Friday neither can be a replacement for the other.

• Jumu’ah is the originally prescribed prayer of the day, and Zuhr is the substitute. In this case, if the originally prescribed prayer is waived, the substitute is also waived, with a greater reason. (Ash-Shawkaanee based his stand on this reasoning).

• Zuhr the originally prescribed prayer for Friday just like other days of the week, and Jumu’ah is only ordained as a replacement for it on Fridays. In this case, waiving of the replacement should never be interpreted as the waiving of the original. 

Regarding the first viewpoint, the scholars are unanimous that whoever correctly performed any of the two is completely exempted from performing the other. Therefore, Jumu’ah and Zuhr cannot be both originally prescribed prayers at the time of Zuhr on Fridays.

If, according to the second viewpoint, Jumu’ah is the originally prescribed prayer of Friday and Zuhr is only a replacement, then this is a fundamentally flawed view. As-San’aanee in his commentary on Bulooghul-Maraam explained that the opinion that Jumu’ah is the basis and Zuhr is the substitute is indefensible. This is because; Zuhr is the basis and originally ordained prayer on the Night of Israa. Jumu’ah prayer was only ordained sometime later. It is in the light of this that the majority of the scholars (some scholars actually reported unanimity on this) that if one missed Jumu’ah prayer, Zuhr – which is the originally prescribed prayer for that particular time – must be compulsorily observed.

A deeper look at the two prayers would reveal that the compulsoriness of Zuhr prayer is more emphatic than that of Jumu’ah for the following reasons, and this strengthens the opinion that Zuhr is the originally prescribed prayer of that time of Friday:

• The command to observe Zuhr prayer applies to much larger individuals than does the command to observe Jumu’ah prayer. For, according to the most correct opinion, Jumu’ah is only obligatory on an adult male resident while Zuhr is obligatory on every adult Muslim, male and female, resident or on a journey, with or without an excuse.

• Zuhr is made up for if it is missed, while Jumu’ah is not.

• Jumu’ah cannot be observed except in congregation while Zuhr can be observed congregationally and individually.

• Zuhr, like any other act of worship whose ordainment is established by authentic and explicit texts. It follows then that its waiving cannot be established except through he same avenue.

Therefore, Salatul-Jumu’ah is an act of worship ordained on a specific day in place of Zuhr for whoever is capable of attending it. Those who are not capable of attending it should revert to the originally prescribed prayer of that time, which is Dhuhr.

Furthermore, what is meant by sufficiency in the Hadeeth is the permissibility to be absent from another congregational prayer and sermon, since both had already occurred in Eid prayer. 

Ibn Taymiyyah in his Fatawa (vol. 24, p. 211) said: “Since one has attended the Eid prayer, the goal of congregation has already been achieved. What he should then do, if he does not attend Jumu’ah is to observe Zuhr at its prescribed time.”

In addition to this, it can be argued that if the prayer Ibn Az-Zubayr led was Eid, there is nothing in his report that explicitly indicated that he did not perform Zuhr prayer in his house. Therefore, it is untrue to claim that Ibn Az-Zubayr’s opinion on this matter is optionality of observing Zuhr for those who attended ‘Eid on a Friday. Rather, we can see from the statement of ‘Ataa that they observed the Zuhr prayer individually, which indicated that no one among the companions adopted the view. Therefore, Ibn ‘Abbas’ expression of approval for what Ibn Zubayr did by saying, ‘He has acted according to the Sunnah’, is about his not coming out for another congregational sermonized prayer. If not, from where in this narration can we infer that he did not perform Zuhr that Ibn ‘Abbas would commend him on that? 

Furthermore, the reporter of the event himself mentioned that he and others observed their Zuhr prayer individually and neither Ibn ‘Abbaas nor Ibn Az-Zubayr were reported to have expressed any disapproval for what they did. This solidly shows that Zuhr prayer should not be abandoned if one has attended the ‘Eid prayer that falls on a Friday and did not attend Jumu’ah.

Also if we agree with the correctness of the view that anyone who attended ‘Eid on a Friday is exempted from observing Zuhr prayer, then we have to agree that anyone who attended ‘Eid that falls on any other day of the week should be exempted from observing Zuhr prayer. But no one would dare say that.

A more compelling argument against the holders of this opinion is this: If we agree that Ibn Az-Zubayr did not observe Zuhr, then we can say that the prayer he gave sermon for and led was Jumu’ah and not Zuhr, given the sequence of events in the narration, ‘gave sermon…, led the people in prayer’. This is based on the opinion that it is permissible to observe Jumu’ah prayer in the forenoon – an opinion held by Imaam Ahmad and others. This is because; it is Jumu’ah only in which the sermon obligatorily precedes the prayer. As for the two Eids, the established Sunnah is to observe the two Rak’ahs of ‘Eid first and then give the sermon! Al-Bukhaaree and Muslim recorded on the authority of Ibn ‘Abbaas that he said: “I have seen the Messenger of Allaah ﷺ , Abu Bakr, ‘Umar and ‘Uthmaan – all of them leading the (‘Eid) prayer first before giving the sermon.” As such, giving sermon and then leading people in Eid clearly goes against this established Sunnah. This is especially so when we take into account a report recorded by Muslim on the authority of Abu Sa’eed Al-Khudree (may Allaah be pleased with him) that he criticized the then governor of Al-Madeenah, Marwan ibn Al-Hakam and for going against the Sunnah and giving Eid sermon before the prayer. Ibn Az-Zubayr, a Prophet’s companion, couldn’t have knowingly gone against the Sunnah on this. This is buttressed by Al-Iraaqee when he submitted, “None of the Prophet’s companions was authentically reported to have given sermon before leading Eid prayer. Neither ‘Umar nor ‘Uthman or Mu’aawiyah or Ibn Az-Zubayr did that.” This strengthens the view that the prayer led by Ibn Az-Zubayr, as par the sequence of events in the narration, could be Jumu’ah.

 Therefore, Ibn ‘Abbaas’ approving Ibn Az-Zubayr’s action as being ‘according to the Sunnah must be interpreted as latter’s making do with one of the two sermonized congregational prayers that fell on the same day, and the most qualified candidate in this case is Jumu’ah, given the above explanation.

The Second Opinion: 

Absenting from Jumu’ah is permissible for whoever has attended ‘Eid prayer; but this does not free him from performing the obligatory Zuhr prayer. This opinion is clearly supported by the Hadeeths mentioned above.

The Third Opinion:

Absenting from Jumu’ah is permissible for whoever has attended Eid prayer from among the dwellers of villages, outskirts and faraway places who came to the city to attend Eid prayer; but the city dwellers are not included in this permissibility.

The proof: The Hadeeth no. 8 which mentions that ‘Uthmaan allowed the dwellers of Al-‘Awaali not to attend the Jumu’ah prayer. Holders of this view argue that since ‘Uthmaan specifically gave permission to those who lived in Al-‘Awali to go back home if they wanted to, this means the city dwellers must attend the Jumu’ah prayer.

The Most Preponderant Opinion

In the light of the above texts and arguments, the opinion found most preponderant – and knowledge belongs to Allaah – is that observing Zuhr prayer cannot be waived for someone who attended ‘Eid prayer on a Friday and availed himself of the permissibility of absenting from Jumu’ah prayer. This is due to cogent points, some of which are as follows:

1. The strength of the textual and logical proofs supporting it.

2. There is no explicit and authentic Hadeeth indicating that the obligation of performing Zuhr prayer is waived for those who are permitted to be absent from Jumu’ah prayer. Neither is this authentically reported from the Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam) nor can it be reliably and explicitly traced to any of his companions. In the absence of this explicit proof, the clear obligation of performing Zuhr prayer remains unchanged on the part of whoever is absent from Jumu’ah with or without an excuse. As for the report attributed to Ibn Az-Zubayr, the stronghold of the holders of the contrary view in that report is the word ‘sufficiency’ (Al-Ijzaa) mentioned in the report, which is not strong enough to support the claim.

3. Zuhr is an obligatory prayer ordained by an explicit proof and one can only be exempted from performing it through an equally explicit proof; and there is none.

4. Ibn ‘Abdul-Barr, in his voluminous work, At-Tamheed (vol. 10, pp. 270-271), said: “As for the statement that Jumu’ah can be waived without any need to observe Zuhr if one has already attended ‘Eid, it is a clearly unsound, erroneous, rejected and unrecognized statement. For, Allaah says: “When call to prayer is made on Yawmul-Jumu’ah…” without exempting the day of ‘Eid or any other day. The reports traced to Allaah’s Messenger (sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam) on such exception are only concerning permissibility to be absent from Jumu’ah prayer when one of the two ‘Eids falls on a Friday (and one has already attended ‘Eid prayer). This permissibility, according to the scholars, applies to both city dwellers and others, or to only dwellers of the countryside while all must observe Zuhr prayer if they do not attend the Jumu’ah prayer.”

5. The Saudi Arabia Standing Committee for Scientific Researches and Fatwa, (Fatwa No. 21162), stated that the opinion that says that anyone who attended an ‘Eid prayer that falls on a Friday is exempted from attending Jumu’ah and observing Zuhr prayer for that day is wrong. That is why the scholars repudiated it and declared it indefensible and weird. This is due to its direct contradiction of the Sunnah and its cancellation of one of the acts of worship clearly ordained by Allaah, without a proof.

Wallaahu ta’aalaa a’lam.

Reviewed and edited on Sunday, 5 Dhul-Hijjah 1438 (27 August 2017)

‘Abdur-Raafi Al-Imaam

What’s the value of life

A little boy went to his old grandpa and asked, “What’s the value of life?”
The grandpa gave him one stone and said, “Find out the value of this stone, but don’t sell it.”
The boy took the stone to an Orange Seller and asked him what its cost would be.
The Orange Seller saw the shiny stone and said, “You can take 12 oranges and give me the stone.”
The boy apologized and said that the grandpa has asked him not to sell it.
He went ahead and found a vegetable seller.
“What could be the value of this stone?” he asked the vegetable seller.
The seller saw the shiny stone and said, “Take one sack of potatoes and give me the stone.”
The boy again apologized and said he can’t sell it.
Further ahead, he went into a jewellery shop and asked the value of the stone.
The jeweler saw the stone under a lens and said, “I’ll give you 1 million for this stone.” 
When the boy shook his head, the jeweler said, “Alright, alright, take 2 24karat gold necklaces in addition to the 1 million, but give me the stone.”
The boy explained that he can’t sell the stone.
Further ahead, the boy saw a precious stone’s shop and asked the seller the value of this stone.
When the precious stone’s seller saw the big ruby, he lay down a red cloth and put the ruby on it.
Then he walked in circles around the ruby and bent down and touched his head in front of the ruby. “From where did you bring this priceless ruby from?” he asked.
“Even if I sell all the assets I have, I won’t be able to purchase this priceless stone.”
Stunned and confused, the boy returned to the grandpa and told him what had happened. 
“Now tell me what is the value of life, grandpa?”
Grandpa said, 
“The answers you got from the Orange Seller, the Vegetable Seller, the Jeweler & the Precious Stone’s Seller explain the value of our life…
You may be a precious stone, even priceless, but people will value you based on their financial status, their level of information, their belief in you, their motive behind entertaining you, their ambition, and their risk taking ability. 
But don’t fear, you will surely find someone who will discern your true value.” Therefore,
Respect yourself.
Believe in yourself.
Stay focused.
Don’t sell yourself cheap.
You are Unique.
No one can replace you!
Remember: You are valuable as you are.


Taqwa is not only in our manners…‎Taqwa is not about looking islamic…

Taqwa is not about spotting a beard or wearing a Hijab…‎

Taqwa is not appearance,‎


Taqwa is when you miss a single prayer, you feel uneasy the whole day…

Taqwa is when you speak a lie , your instinct feels bad…‎

Taqwa is the guilt that follows when u hurt someone knowingly or unknowingly.

Taqwa is the shame and regret that follows a sin you did knowing fully well about it’s stand in the sight of Allah.‎

Taqwa is when you cannot sleep the whole night after disobeying or disrespecting your parents

Taqwa is to cry in the depths of night fearing none but the one above the Arsh. 

Taqwa is the fear that refrains us from sinning even when we are alone and nobody is looking…

Taqwa is the guts and the will to please Allah, even when the whole world is hell bent on displeasing Him…

Taqwa is to wear that beard and Hijab for the sole reason of pleasing Our Rabb and to keep it as per sunnah…‎

Taqwa is to stay happy and smiling even after knowing this world is a prison for believers…

Taqwa is the good manners and character that loving and fearing Allah brings in us…

Taqwa is the struggle to better yourself according to Islam with each passing day…

Taqwa is not only about rising in deen, it is more about falling but again rising up and never letting go…

Taqwa IS ALL ABOUT WHAT LIES IN THE HEART, and if this heart is filled with proper Taqwa, then actions automatically follow…

And the sweetness of these actions are so much better..Alhamdulillah

A match is 90 minutes

A tv series is 60 minutes

A movie is 180 minutes
Salat is 5 minutes
Jahannam forever
Jannat forever
Be smart  to contemplate:
300 friends on whatsapp.  
80 on the phone
50 friends in the neighbourhood. 
In times of need 1 Friend
Funeral, family only
 In the grave,  alone
don’t be surprised this is life. 
Verily only your salat will benefit you. 
If you find dust on your Mushaf.
Weep for yourself
For whoever stopped reading Qur’an for 3 days is called quitter

NB: You are not forced to share. 

But as Allah SWT says:

Remind, for reminder benefits the believers
Strange world:

Janazah after janazah as storms. Death after death
So and so died in car crash.  Others from disease


Others walking and fell dead


All of them left life behind
And we buried them 
Surely my day and your day will come. 

You who delay tawbah for you are young.  
Sorry it’s not written on the graveyard FOR THE OLD ONLY
Life is only 3 days long:
Yesterday – Lived and never comes back
Today – We live and wont last
Tomorrow – we don’t know where we will be. 
So greet. Forgive and be charitable
For me, you and them will all leave…


Oh Allah we ask you a good ending. Grant us jannah. Protect us from jahannam. Ameen


Brother/sister, if you grow up doing something you will die doing it and if you die doing something you will be resurrected doing it.
 If you read this post and you gained, it’s reward… and if you share it, you spread it benefits. 
Interesting stuff:


Streets – Busy


Market – Busy
Bank – Busy


University – Busy
Cafe – Busy
Restaurant – Busy 
Stadium – Busy
Masajid -Empty 

My advice is ensure you read the Quran everyday even if it’s a verse may Allah reward us abundantly Ameen. 
Allah sees you sharing it. ‏​‏


Oh Allah whoever sends out bestow on him your bounties from where he doesn’t expect and doesn’t know. 


A man has confessed that looking at his mother’s nakedness and watching her undress made him become a chronic masturbator…

A Nigerian man, Kolawole Ladipo has shared an intriguing message to parents concerning some habits and sexual behaviours that could ruin the life of their kids

In a recent post, he narrated how a boy became addicted to masturbation by always seeing her mother undress before him at an early age.
Ladipo wrote: 

I counselled a young guy who was addicted to masturbation. He told me he can’t do without masturbation. One thing that struck me in his confession was when he said: ”My mum caused all this for me”.

Curiosity got hold of me and I asked him, how?

He said: “I started masturbation since when I was 4 years old; my mum has always been dressing up naked before me, I am used to seeing her nakedness. I am not moved to have sex with her, but I always long to see mature ladies naked just the way I always see my mum dressing up naked before me.”

“I still remember seeing her nakedness regularly till I was 8 years; and my dad do shout on her:

‘Send this boy out before you dress,’ but my mum would always reply by saying: ‘Will my son sleep with me? Stop planting evil thought in his heart.’

“Anytime I see my mum’s naked body, I long to see ladies’ naked body.

I then went into sex at age 10 and till now I am not free from sex, heavy pornography and masturbation…”

Dear parents, I hope you are not guilty of this? You are dressing up before your 2 years old son/daughter; you say he/she doesn’t know anything yet? That’s very cruel.

Some couples will be having s*x while their close-to-2-years old child will be in their room with them; they’ll feel and think that he/she can only see, he/she can’t understand.

Sir/ma’am, that your child does not need to understand. Seeing your nakedness or seeing you and your spouse making love is enough to plant abnormal sexual fantasies and urge in that child. Remember, it is now a jet world!

How will you destroy your own children with your own carelessness?

Don’t let your children see your nakedness.

Don’t make love in the presence of your child no matter the age.

The scene sticks to the memory, they may want to explore and experiment what they are seeing.

Stop making free home-made ‘sex clips or video’ for your children to watch.

Mummy, sit properly.

Dress properly too.

Stop sitting as if you are in the labour room; parting your legs for your son to see your inner tight and pant.

Be very careful.

Daddy, don’t wear ordinary boxer at home, you sit down, your ‘thing’ is dangling and your daughter is seeing it. There are things you should not wear beyond your bedroom, just for your spouse. Don’t say because you want to enjoy your freedom in your house. It’s not your house alone, it’s a family house/home. You are putting your children into sexual bondage through these acts. The initiation starts from home.

Mummy, wearing ordinary bra around the house in the presence of your sons is dangerous. Yes, they won’t lust after you, but you might be messing up with their sensuality; and increasing their curiosity to see the breasts of ladies out there.

Let’s stop being ‘pornographic materials’ to our children. Raising sexually pure children, it begins at home.’ It begins with me and you.
My Counsel; 

Thank you very much for the issues raised in family porn. It is still our responsibility to build virtue into our family. We need to learn from others.
Still on building virtuous homes. Look at this:


Please, carefully look into the list below to see where you may want to make amends on yourself or the young ones you are caring for.

Children, if not properly groomed may never get to the top in life, even if the parents are at the top of their career.

Manners take you to where your education can’t take you, irrespective of your status, money or the “who you know” factor.

This is not meant to hurt anyone or pinpoint on someone for their upbringing. Its a general message targeted to all the parents of today.

*1.* Going to your child’s school dressed indecently? Think again.

*2.* Speaking rashly to your child’s teacher.

*3.* Cursing, using foul words or swearing in front of your children.

*4.* Using makeup on children.

*5.* Dressing with tight clothes and indecently for children (they loose the sense of their princesshood and may not listen to you in future)

*7.* Your child holds the cup or glassware by the brim and you don’t make a correction.

*8.* Your children don’t greet and you just feel they will come around one day because they have a mood swing. (You will be blamed for it)

*9.* Your children eat with their mouth opened and you feel they will grow up some day.

*10.* Your children brought home something you did not buy for them and you said nothing. (That is the beginning of stealing)

*11.* They talked back at you and you concluded it’s okay since you’re a 21st century mummy. (You will hate yourself if they do that outside and they are disciplined)

*12.* They interrupt when you are speaking with another adult and you think they are bold and clever. (It’s really bad manners)

*13.* They exercise authority over their nanny and domestic staff and you let them be. (That is bad parenting)

*14.* They say things like “my driver is on his way…”

I am not an advocate that children should call your domestic staff aunty or brother but, calling them by names when they are not young people is not poise either. The use of Miss, Mr or Mrs will look good on them.

*15.* Your children don’t say- ‘Thank you’ when they have been helped or served something. They don’t know how to say “please” when they need someone for help; and you are cool with that. (Bad parenting)

*16.* When your children cannot stand children who are less privileged.

*18.* When they pick their nose with their hands.

*19.* When they don’t wash their hands after visiting the washroom.

*20.* When your children take something from the fridge without taking permission. (Bad parenting)

*21.* When your children don’t knock on closed doors.

*22.* When your children don’t collect from your hands the stuff you brought in as you walk in through the door.

*23.* When your children request for a bribe to carry out their home chores or extra task. (That is disgraceful)

*24.* When your children act like their grandparents are irritating them.

*25.* When your children have not learnt to get up from the chair for the elderly or visitors to sit.

*26.* When your child tells a lot of lies. (You will both cry in the future if such is not put to check)

*27.* When your child asks “who is that?” at a knock on your door instead of “please, who is there.”

*28.* When your child is always seated by your visitors when being served drinks etc.

*29.* When your children still point their fingers at other people.

*30.* When your children play and jump around when prayers are going on. (age 4 above).

Don’t be a 21st Century parent who cannot correct a child. Train your child in the way of the Lord, so that when he grows up he will not depart from it.
May Almighty God never let this be our portion. Amen.

You can do well to circulate this piece to all parents and grandparents…
Akeen ‘Deen Saheed

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1. When the month of Ramadan starts, the gates of paradise are opened, the gates of hell are closed and the devils are chained. (Al-Bukhari 1898, Muslim 1079)

2. Every Muslim must make intention before fajr to fast(for an obligatory fast). Intention is not uttered. It is determination in the mind and should not be done with audible wordings. (Al Bukhari 1, Abu Dawood 2454)

3. Fasting is NOT just abstaining from eating and drinking, it is also refraining from vain speech and foul language. If one is verbally abused, he should say ‘I am fasting’ (Muslim 1151)

4. Taking the pre-dawn meal (Sahuur) is a BLESSING. Every Muslim is expected to take the meal EVEN if with a mouthful of water. (Al Bukhari 1923, Ahmad 44)

5. It is the Sunnah to DELAY the Sahuur and HASTEN to break the fast as soon as the sun sets. (Al Bukhari 1921, Muslim 1099)

6. If one hears the call to prayer WHILE still eating the Sahuur, he should not stop eating, rather he should finish his food. (Abu Dawud 2350)

7. Whosoever does not give up speaking falsely and acting on lies and evil actions, Allaah does not care for his abstaining from eating and drinking. (Al Bukhari 1903)

8. The Messenger of Allah used to break his fast BEFORE magrib prayer with 3 fresh dates, if there were no fresh dates, he would eat 3 dry dates, if there were no dry dates, he would take 3 draughts of water. (Abu Dawud 2349)

9. Whoever provides a fasting person something with which to break his fast, he will earn the same reward as the person without the person’s reward being reduced. (At-tirmidhi 807)

10. It is PERMISSIBLE for a fasting person to bath or pour over his head to relief him of the hotness of the sun or of thirst. (Abu dawud 2365)

11. If somebody eats or drinks FORGETFULLY while fasting, he should complete his fast, for what he has eaten or drunk been given to him by Allaah. (Al Bukhari 1933, Muslim 1155)

12. Zakaatul fitr is OBLIGATORY on every muslim, old & young, slave & free, male & female. One Sa’a (approx. 3kg) of food items should be given out before people go out for the ‘Eid prayer. (Al Bukhari 579/2, Muslim 2159)

13. The Messenger of Allaah never proceeded(for prayer) on the day of ‘Eid ul fitr unless he had eaten some odd number of dates. (Al Bukhari 73/2)

14. We should put on our BEST garments and chant Adhkaar TO & FRO the Eid ground. (Al Bukhari 88,89,102/2)

15. On the day of Eid, the Messenger of Allaah used to return (after offering the Eid prayer) through a way DIFFERENT from that by which he went. (Al Bukhari 102/2).                                           

16. Whoever observes fast in Ramadan and also fasts for six days in Shawwal, the reward of a whole year fast is recorded for him. (Muslim 2614/6)



When someone comes and tells you, “I can’t sleep without you, I love you the way you are and I can put up with your good and bad attitude”, before you commit your heart please, *GIVE IT TIME*.
When You just met someone today and feel like marrying him/her tomorrow, before you do remember you need to *GIVE IT TIME*.
When you visit your uncle and you will stay there for 2 months holiday, don’t be carried away that they serve you your preferred food and give you hot water to bath during your first two days and you start making arrangement to relocate to their house, *GIVE IT TIME*.
When a brother visits you and wakes you up by his shouting of prayer from 12 am to 6 am, please don’t shut him down, first *GIVE IT TIME*.
When someone joins your fellowship in the first year and he is in every group/wing, please don’t rush and make him a leader rather *GIVE IT TIME*.
When you enter a new environment and everybody worships you and eat your mess don’t be carried away just *GIVE IT TIME*.
When someone comes with a new business with unbelievable promises, please before you involve your money, first *GIVE IT TIME*.
When you see a new church in town and you hear their waves, before you conclude about how hot they are, first *GIVE IT TIME*.
Finally, when you are in a cross road of decisions, you don’t know what to do, ask the people or person involved to please *GIVE YOU TIME*.
The wise priest in the Bible in Acts told them to leave Peter and John, rather, give them time.
You can be good in giving people tests and trying out who they are. 
Some people know how to pass them all but the test of time they fail.
_Time tests Love and proves it._
_Time tests businesses and authenticates it._
_Time tests spirituality and reveals it._
_Time tests friendship and uncover true friend_
Time, a good tester.
Don’t say that the utilities in your area is now the best until you have *GIVEN IT TIME*.
Your uncle or Father told You that you are useless and worthless and can’t amount to anything, just laugh it away and ask them to *GIVE YOU TIME*.
*_Quote me…_* 
Consistency with time is the true test of Efficiency.
*Time is a TESTER*.
*Time is a REVEALER.*
Thanks for giving this long post TIME… 
A painful moment brings quietness & quietness gives inspiration for good thinking, when all is well you don’t think of “what next”… Just *”Give It Time”* 
When you pass it around and no one comments, don’t assume it was ignored, *GIVE IT TIME*.

Good day.


· Laziness kills marriage 
· Suspicion kills marriage 
· Lack of trust kills marriage 
· Lack of mutual respect kills marriage 
· Unforgiveness kills marriage (Forgiveness is not optional but mandatory)
· Arguments kills marriage 
· Keeping secrets from your spouse kills marriage 
· Every form of infidelity kills marriage (financial, emotional, psychological, material, etc)
· Poor communication kills marriage 
. Lies easily kills marriage, be sincere to your spouse in every aspect.
· Relating more with your parents than your spouse kills marriage 
· Lack of, inadequate or unenjoyable sex kills marriage. 
· Nagging kills marriage 
· Too much talk and careless talk kills marriage 
· Spending less or little time with your spouse kills marriage 
· Being too independent minded kills marriage
· Love for party, money and spending/partying kills marriage 
· Exposing the inadequacies of your spouse to your parents or siblings kills marriage
· Not being steadfast/fervent in the spirit kills not only marriage but your life
· Spurning correction and reprimand kills marriage. 
· Always wearing a sad face and being moody kills marriage.  
· FEMINISM ADVOCACY kills marriage. 
· Uncontrolled or hot temperament kills marriage. 
· Not understanding your role and position in marriage as instituted by God kills marriage. 
· Not being sensitive to the spiritual, emotional and physical needs of your spouse kills marriage
· When anything threatens the position/security of a wife, her reaction(s) will be detrimental to her marriage.
· Lack of the knowledge of the word of God kills marriage.
.Please, save a marriage today by sharing this.
May God bring healing to every troubled home and family.